Saying ‘no’

⭐ Saying no ⭐

Something that many of us find difficult, for many reasons…

-          We don’t want to offend people

-          We don’t want to let people down

-          We don’t want to appear ‘boring’, or less fun than we used to

-          We don’t want to make others feel insecure

But what’s missing from all those sentences, is the word ‘YOU’!

You’re important. You deserve to lay down boundaries, to honour your needs. You are the only version of you on the planet, so it’s important to give yourself what you need so you can THRIVE!

This is something I have always found hard and continue to. It’s something I have gotten more practiced in, having been diagnosed with chronic illness back in 2021. I often have to say ‘no’, as I simply don’t have the energy to say yes, even if I wanted to. And slowly but surely, I’m learning, that it’s okay, it’s safe, it’s acceptable, and it’s healthy.

I loved this article I came across so thought I’d share it. This was my favourite paragraph…

“People are always going to have requests. Sometimes you will be able to help; sometimes you will not. You are still a good person regardless. If you put everyone else’s needs ahead of your own, you will become mentally and physically exhausted. Set boundaries to validate your own feelings and practice acceptance that you cannot control the opinions of others.”

https://therapychanges.com/blog/2018/08/its-okay-to-say-no/

Protect those boundaries, and give yourself what you need without judgement or guilt.